“Honey, what can I do to make you feel better?”
Create a safe space to talk and take your partner into confidence. Ask his/her, “honey, what can I do to make you feel better?”
Our moral science books have several times thrown light over the fact that it’s easier to complain but we always find it hard to acknowledge this. In this self centric and fast moving world, we want a partner who can mould himself/herself into our structure, our time and our stencil and if this doesn’t happen then we go on to hunt for someone else because the better one is just a swipe away. For a change, except complaining, ask your partner to point out things that she/he finds troubling. Sometimes, we just refuse to accept that we could be wrong and in the process of demanding happiness and validation, we forget to give happiness to the other person. And maybe you are not wrong in a particular situation but it’s possible that your partner might have interpreted your action into something else. Talk it out and discuss the possible solutions. Make sure, at the end you both are ready to work on it other than feeling bad about the raised issues.
I can’t stress enough over the fact that, saving a relationship is the job of two people of the relationship and not one. You both have to work upon it. You have to accept that the personality of the other person would change with time and experiences. Accept that you both are two people and would, naturally, be different. Being in love doesn’t mean to become one, literally. It means to stick with your partner and encourage him/her. Take interest and respect the work of the other person as you respect yours’. You both have to grow together but without loosing your own individuality. A Healthy discussion is the key to solve any problem and trust me, you won’t go anywhere complaining about things.
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