Friendship day: Indian Version

Come on, friendship day is special and we all can agree on this. Especially in India because it’s not just a friendship day! It’s a clever move day. It’s an excuse to approach your crush and dude getting friend-zoned it much better than getting bro-zoned because right after this comes Rakshabandhan. A Hindu festival, on which sisters of all ages tie a talisman, or amulet, called the rakhi, around the wrists of their brothers, symbolically protecting them, receiving a gift in return, and traditionally investing the brothers with a share of the responsibility of their potential care.

I remember in my primary school, my gang was quite an OG. Hahaha, we felt really cool sporting those friendship bands. Also because it represented how many people had crushes on us. Hiding the bands from our teachers’ eyes was a real adventurous task. Every kiddo of my age cherish these memories but I won’t write more about friends and slip deep into nostalgia.

I want to write about friendship rather friends. The bond of pure love, honesty and respect. Think about it, any relationship can become more positive if the people of that relationship share the bond of friendship. Parents and their children come closer if parents agree to understand them like thier friends. Partners in a romantic relationship become more vocal and understanding if they are friends to each other, before being a better half. A student understands more, if she/he sees a friend in teacher. Of course, this doesn’t mean that a parent or teacher shouldn’t exercise their authority whenever required. They should because they are also a guide to their younger ones. The whole point is that both the people of relationship should be comfortable enough to put forward their views. They should be able to have an honest conversation. In India, being that comfortable with younger generation isn’t much in practice. That, somehow, results in awkwardness between them and everyone just tries to escape from that awkwardness. But once anyone breaks the ice, the reward is so fulfilling that no one would want to go back in previous place.

Amoung many other characteristics of being a good friend, one is to always have the back of each other and giving space for growth. Nothing only professionally but also emotionally/spiritually. Friends accept each other in each and every case along with being comfortable with pointing out or accepting criticism.

And I am grateful for having such good friends. They are not only good human beings but also always there to support me. You must be having some of those too, please protect them. Never repel them. Analyze their positive criticism and then decide if you really want to follow or not. Be open to them and also available to help them. Also keep a tap who is genuinely trying to be friends with you like your parents. Your one step towards them could mean world to them.

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Problem with girls!

I am a girl and I am super proud of that fact, but there are  few reasons about us that derives me nuts! Like-

1. We give ourselves too much of importance! We think that the world is just busy noticing our dress (that if we have worn it before or not), our shoes ( if it’s going with the dress or not), or our make-up. Honestly girl, no one gives a damn about all these things until you are natural. Don’t be an “it girl” by wardrobe, be by your good behaviour! B)
2. We don’t want to be “Ourselves”! I don’t know if majority of girls will admit it or not but the fact is that girls always want to be like someone else and this someone can be anyone. It can be your classmate who gets a lot of attention or your pretty cousin or an actress. If she is slim, you want that shape, if she has good hair, you spent on hair treatments to get that and the list goes on. Girls you need to understand that you are born goddess and goddess are pretty in every shape, size and colour. If someone do rejects you for this reason then remember that there is someone who will love the natural you. So say tata to jerks and wait for right people. 🙂
3. We are filter lovers! I, personally know many girls who are just not ready to accept their real pictures. I mean, when you will look at their instagram  profile you will hardly find a picture filter free. Some pictures are so much edited that you can’t even spot a nose on the face and that really makes girl look like they have come from Venus! I am not completely against filters, in fact I use them too, but using it to make yourself look someone else is wrong. Accept yourself! Love your imperfections!  ❤
4. Frame of girl! Come on, we all know that there is a stupid frame which asks girls to behave in a certain way.  But if you are not of that kind then don’t be ashamed for that. In fact, it’s good if you break that frame for future generations. It’s okay if you feel more comfortable in shirts and can’t be tip-top all the time. Just don’t change or try to fit yourself into that frame for the sake of few people how only show up to criticise you.
5. Accept every fact about yourself! You are a girl, you wear a bra, you bleed once in a month, you give birth to a life. You don’t have to feel shy about admitting these stuffs. It’s how it is so just accept it. Stop creating a fuss or hiding it! You are special and remember this! 😀